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1) Plesae HELP [by Anonymous on November 12, 2008]Are there any rights for Grandparents when the 19 year old mother of our year old Grand Daughter is acting irresponsible and irrational in her decisions concerning the baby? She has gone as far as leaving the baby with a lady who let a man into her home that inappropriately touched her two girls. We have tried to talk to the 19 yr old but she knows it all.. any advice would help. Thank you.
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?A Grandmother’s Heavy Heart Dedicated to my Grandchildren Austin and Layla
Oh how sad for a Grandmother who tries
for now left is a heart that truly cries
Torn from the arms of love at such a tender age
for tiny little hearts of love is the saddest wage
How sad my dear precious little one
for nothing I can do for you aren’t my daughter or son
A head that droops with tears
a heart that now fears
I have no time to give you my love for sure
so much pain and sorrow we now must endure
My body is heavy my mind is dull my heart is ever so sad
I have no energy to even be mad
I have done nothing wrong Grandchildren of my heart
except love you so dearly when we are oh so far apart
Now that I could travel and see you more
this is taken from me cause it is you I both do so adore
I cry and weep with such heaviness I have never known
for all I want to do is give you love that should be shown
I don’t understand this from your Parents at all
and I don’t understand Parents wanting us to take such a fall
I don’t understand a Parent who would want to take away such love
when I have so much goodness in me from God above
I’m am only guilty of one thing I want you both to know
my love for you both does oh so willingly flow
For this great wonderful love I have in me
we are punished for this is what I see
My dear little Grandbabies you are so very close to me indeed
for this my heart is left torn to bleed
Now love so sweet shall have to suffer when it should not
now emptiness is all I have got
If something should happen to me know this wasn’t my choice
for we had no say they wouldn’t listen to our voice
I would have done anything to see you both oh so much
for I felt I had much to give and I too wanted your life to touch
So please forgive me I beg of you from the deepest part of my soul
I couldn’t be there as often as a Grandmother for they wouldn’t let me have my role
So please forgive me for sadly there was nothing I could do
to be there as often as I wanted for the both of you
I love you and I shall protect this love and keep you safe in my heart
where you have been from the very start
I pray God shall let me live long enough to tell you both how I feel
that all this was so unnecessary we all got a raw deal
How can sweet love so pure and so kind be so wrong
when all I want as your Grandmother is to belong
I have some wonderful qualities about me I wanted to share
for the both of you I oh so deeply for care
My love is beyond this earth, moon and stars that twinkle in the sky
this is why I hurt deeply my Grandbabies this honestly is not a lie
I wish your parents hadn’t take so much from you and I
for if I had too I would for you both die
My deepest fear is you will soon forget this deep love I have that is freely yours
for my love for you two oh so freely soars
Even though I was willing to travel to see you both my time has been cut back
now time and your precious sweet love is what I will lack
Oh such cruel punishment
for what the love that I sent
Oh such heart ache
for sweet precious time I now must forsake
All for the love of my heart that is oh so deep and wide
punishment now all for love I could not hide
Why dear God such anger and turmoil must live on
why can’t love sweet love just be left alone
Why can’t two precious children have me too
God help me for I truly don’t know what to do
The Parents don’t care if I suffer and my heart is torn
they don’t care that I cry or mourn
For if they did they would not leave me as a Grandmother so far behind
all because I had my Grandbabies foremost in my mind
The only thing I now can do is pray
that even thru distant time you feel my love each and every day
Oh Grandbabies of mine so precious and dear
know each night I softly whisper I love you with many a tear ©
It was fine that I was there for my grandson for the first 5 years of his life constantly and my granddaughter for 2 1/2 years. I was wonderful when doing and giving and then it all fell apart when the Mother (Giannina) moved 7 hours away to Cullowhee NC and she got to the point that 48 hours a month was to much time for me to spend with my grandchildren, even though I paid for everything when we went there and every other month taking her sister's two children( Kayli and Keith) for the weekend at the hotel with us paying for it all. Even her sisters two children came with my Grandson and spent a week at my home we paid for everything here for them all...this was fine I was a good loving grandmother but when I didn't want to go without seeing my Grandchildren 48 hours a month I became very bad, but really the troubles started all because of a very strong bond I share with them even her Mother, the other Grandmother(Donna)told me this. So now the children must be made to feel someone they love could just leave go away (one day here-gone the next day) HOW SAD HOW DAMAGING all for 48 hours a month. No courts will help so the children are the parents pawn in a game of chess and the parents play check mate and won but who really lost. The children the precious precious children they will grow up one day and have a really big problem over this. (Ask a Child Psychologist--I did and found one that is a Father with two children the age of my Grandchildren and he told me this is a form of emotional and mental abuse the parents have done to their children and they will grow up one day with problems from this.
Just know Austin and Layla--NaNa loves you more than the earth moon and stars and even beyond this lifetime. I am a very good and loving person but your parents can't control me and they played their last move by trying to use the both of you to control me and it didn't work. Last time I saw and even talked to the both of you was Feb. 11th 2007.
Your Father(Marvin-"Buddy") my son last talked to me in February 2007 sticking me yet again with a large debt of over $7,000.00 this time. His way of getting out of paying me...so money and control is an issue and we have to pay the price. God willing we shall meet again I promise you this much the world is not large enough that I can't find you and let you know of my love and loss time.
God help the small children in situations of being used by personal agenda parents. So sad who truly loses (THE INNOCENT LOVING CHILDREN)
When a parent wins using their children to control grandparents then it is the child that suffers the loss of someone they love dearly. This is sad and I want be part of using a child for anyone.
So for now I must say bye but God willing I will see you again.
When you are grown and no one has control over your life but yourself and we can FREELY LOVE again.
Love NaNa
Becky Edwards Spruill Strickland
Hampstead NC
PS... before a parent responds to this know this I begged my Son for intervention begged him 3 times for us to go to counseling for the children's sake he told me NO they meaning Him as the Father and the Mother owe me nothing. Even the Mother herself told me this too...how Sad they owe their children better than this to take away Good Loving Grandparents that has been a huge part of their lives from the day they came into this world. Yes you do owe me without me there would not be a Father to your children. So yes I am due some respect. I AM A VERY GOOD LOVING PERSON WHO DOES NOT DESERVE THIS BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY EVERYONE READING THIS MY GRANDCHILDREN DO NOT DESERVE THIS. WE ALL DESERVE BETTER!
I think this says it all about me...my grown nephew of 32 years old when he has another child wants me and my husband to be the God Parents and the child if a girl will be named after me...SO HOW BAD CAN I BE?
My Step-Grandchildren (5 of them) are close me too especially my step granddaughter of 15 years old.. stays with us a great deal we have a wonderful loving relationship as well as the parents to all 5 of these children...SO HOW BAD CAN I BE?
Thank you for reading.............
Parents....you better think......KARMA
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To rip someone out of a child's life that he/she has bonded with is child abuse, so, why is it allowed? Grandparent's should not have to go to court to have a relationship with their grandchildren and even if they do kids are seen today as the parent's property so it's very costly, and useless. If the parent's want to use their child/children to torture the grandparent's our courts say it's perfectly legal for them to do so...and we wonder why our prison's are bulging at the seams?! My grandson today is really messed up and a very sad child but they have had two daughter's since they moved and I was not allowed to even know them. God help us all because the court system has found a way to legally condone child abuse..and just look at the results we're getting. It's heartbreaking....
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